100 Feet...

100 Feet...

Go to wild places.

...that's how far the average US National Park visitor gets from the pavement.  In fact, it's estimated that 90 to 95 percent of all visitors stay within sight of their cars, parking lots, visitor centers, and paved overlooks.  This isn't to say go romping off trail in your monster truck and voiding all "leave no trace principles."  It is to say that the adventure isn't often on the boardwalk.  There are ways that most every national park can be explored with your hiking boots, mountain bike, canoe, cross-country skis, etc that are ecologically responsible...and help you find the real adventure.  We used to joke that it didn't count as an adventure if you couldn't get eaten by a grizzly bear during your outing.  There is obviously a happy middle ground...the folks that visit national parks got the first step down...visiting...but they miss the marrow.  

Do wild things.  

The reason, in part, that we bring this up is to encourage you to look at your life and your family's lives to see how far you get from the proverbial pavement.  Do you pour all the way in?  Are you lukewarm?  We've been blessed to visit many national parks...some immersive...others zipping through on the pavement because that was all that time would allow.  Most wild, scenic places could (and have) soaked up lifetimes of adventure.  When you're in your daily life at work...are you on the pavement?  At church?  At home?  In your marriage?  It's easy to stay on the easy street where millions have gone before you.  It's harder...and more rewarding...to embody the "don't go where the path may lead, go where there is no path and make a trail" quote.  

See wild areas.

This isn't to say that you should be a maverick in every respect.  There are times for go-along-to-get-along.  There are other times when a bold faith, bold marriage, bold commitment in whatever you're doing is absolutely necessary.  Think about what the 100 feet...or proverbial pavement...actually looks like in different parts of your life.  As you're thinking about that...keep in mind that moderation still applies.  Sure, you could sell all of your possessions, grow your hair out, and through-hike every national park.  Or, you could go visit the paved places...and throw in an out-and-back picnic hike to a natural wonder that most people don't ever get to see. 

Build wild things.

Using the parallels at work, what does the pavement look like?  Turning in your TPS reports on time?   Maybe you could spice things up by helping figure out why you do the whole Office Space TPS reports in the first place and develop a way to automate the process and bring efficiency to the team.  Maybe you could be bold and suggest a 4- 10 schedule where you come in early and stay late...but get six months or a year's worth of three-day weekends.  Perhaps you could negotiate a "give back leave" policy where every quarter or bi-annually the whole company spends the day volunteering at their favorite charity, then gives a "book report" about the experience at the next staff meeting.  

Walk on 
the wild side.

Next time you travel to a new place, do you "stay on the pavement" by going to chain restaurants, staying at the chain hotel by the highway?  Or do you consider eating at the ethnic food truck where you can't pronounce any of the words and try out some perhaps life-inspiring lodging situation?  (PS here...we've stayed in hostels, rentals by owners, tipis, yurts, cabooses, hotels, motels, cars, tents, etc.  The most memorable ones that we look back on fondly...or with laughs...weren't hotels with a breakfast bar).  Travel is such a wonderful way to "get off the pavement."  It doesn't have to be Around the World in 80 Days; it can be a much more affordable and moderate stay-cation style trip to the "town next door" to still get you out of your comfort zone.  

Start early. 

In your marriage and faith, think about what the pavement is.  Most people (me and probably you often enough) take for granted the blessings that come with marriage.  We assume that the smooth sailing on the pavement is good sailing.  It may be a decent autopilot, but we still need to keep our hands on the wheel and be paying attention, leaning in for and with our spouse.  It's easy to drift along with the proverbial cruise control and autopilot steering the way...the routines of our lives and schedules just humming along without much thought.  You can get off the main road by setting goals with your spouse, carving out time for date nights, and putting your full focus into your loved one when you're with them.  

Do it often.  It matters.

As we wrap up, whether you're literally at a beautiful natural space or more metaphorically, it's important that you proactively and regularly get off the beaten path and into the wild places.  Don't just fall into the ruts, but rather get out and live your big, full life.  Whether it's your budget, schedule, lifestyle, habits, hobbies, or anything else, don't just blindly follow where the wind blows, but pick out your end zone...then work backwards to put the pieces in place that will get you there...no matter what others around you think...it's you and your loved ones that matter most.  

With you in the arena, from ours to yours...Happy Trails!

Call to Action: 

• Pick out three spots where you're in a rut on the main road...now pick out three trails and try them out.  
• 1 - ___________________ 
• 2 - ___________________
• 3 - ___________________
• Discussion: Consider what you/your family could/would/should (level of commitment) and start/stop/sustain (action) in terms of getting out into the wild places of your life.  

Further Reading, Motivation, and References:

- Thousand Hours Outside Podcast

Choose

Choose

It takes longer
but it's worth it.

Choose - There's a quote from a variety of sources that's been floating around the "meme" space of the internet and a bit of an unknown attribution: "Marriage is hard. Divorce is hard. Choose your hard. Obesity is hard. Being fit is hard. Choose your hard. Being in debt is hard. Being financially disciplined is hard. Choose your hard. Communication is hard. Not communicating is hard. Choose your hard. Life will never be easy. It will always be hard. But we can choose our hard. Pick wisely.”  This has been "quoted" by several Navy SEALs and other similar types, but I think it most often goes back to Dr. John Deloney, one of the Dave Ramsey media personalities.  Wherever it came from, it's true.  We have choices in life.  Sometimes between the best of two bad options...but regardless, we have to choose.  

Sweat makes 
you tough.

A quick look on the interwebs and so much of this straightforward sentiment is met with discontent...and excuses.  In reality, much like the rest of life, so much of life is what we choose and what we make of it. That's cliché...but think about it. We're often placed between two hard points - perhaps one that is in-your-face-today-tactical and the other that is longer-term-strategic. The decisions we make today have echoes in who we will be in the future.  This blog, for example, is "hard" to get done every week...172 weeks in a row right now.  The "hard" is giving up before week 173 for no particularly good reason.  I'd probably regret not doing this post at the 11th hour later...in the moment right now, I want to take a week off.  

Learning matters.

Similarly, I'd like to have ice cream for every meal...the hard part I'm choosing in that decision is being able to get up off the couch and out of the house ten years from now.  Pouring into work every waking hour now...my hard choice is having a relationship with my wife and kids down the road.  On the flip side, not working hard and investing today...the hard we're choosing is a retirement that doesn't meet the expectations we've set.  You can see here that the "hard" can come in different flavors and needs to be balanced in moderation between the now and the later.  

Build your 
castle.

When we think about "hard," it's mostly mental in today's day and age.  We're likely not stabbing woolly mammoths with a stick, driving buffalo off a cliff and hitting them with a baseball bat at the bottom, or running from saber-tooth tigers very often.  The good news is that since it's mostly mental, our ability to ignore the excuses and push through is much easier than it could otherwise be in a survival or highly physical situation.  We should be able to rise above our self-interest or our body telling us that we're "too tired" to make it happen.  

Just do it...it's never
convenient.  Do it anyway.

As we look at our hard, it's important to give words to "why" a particular thing is hard and make systems that get us away from the "hard."  In other words, if we're too tired to do a thing now...build into the system where we do the hard thing earlier in the day/week/month/year.  Brian Tracy wrote Eat That Frog, which talks about getting our worst/hardest thing out of the way earliest to set the tone for the rest of the day.  Elite special forces soldiers make their bed perfectly every morning in training in order to get an easy win early.  We too can build our system where we knock out our worst (hardest) first.  

Explore now...
so that you can 
and will later.

If, instead, we're looking at our current self in the moment and having a hard time delaying gratification...or choosing by default the hard thing later, we can work on that too.  There are cell phone apps out there now that can "age" you, where you can more fully visualize what your future self will look like...and what they will look back on you like. They may look back at the now-you with admiration and gratitude for good decisions and fortitude...or with regret.  The choice can sometimes come easier when we more fully visualize that future self.  The app too hokey?  Run down to visit your local nursing home and ask them who would like more mobility?  Work out more now.  Who would like more money/options?  Stop spending to the max and invest the difference.  You get the idea...so does the next-you.

Travel...lean in...even
when it's "hard." 

As we wrap up this week, take a minute to evaluate your current self and decisions...then look at what the ramifications are when you extrapolate out where those decisions will get you in 5, 10, 20, 50 years.  Your hard that you're leaning into now or avoiding will manifest and compound...for better or worse on those longer-range timelines.  Keep in mind, you've got to live in the moment now while preparing for the moments later.  As the Money Guys put it, "bedazzle your beautiful basic life."  We can stay active and healthy; we can save money; we can pour into our spouses and children...so that we've got loved ones, resources, and an ability to enjoy them in the decades to come.  Look at hard things now, find moderation...but lean in while the stakes are relatively low...choose hard today.

With you in the arena, from ours to yours...Happy Trails!

Call to Action: 

• Pick out three hard things that you've been avoiding up until now.  Do them this week.  Keep doing them.  
• 1 - ___________________ 
• 2 - ___________________
• 3 - ___________________
• Discussion: Consider what you/your family could/would/should (level of commitment) and start/stop/sustain (action) in terms of putting hard things first.  

Further Reading, Motivation, and References:

- Eat That Frog - Brian Tracy  

Home

 Home

Build it.

Last week we talked about "Adventure being out there," or implying not here...not at home.  This week we wanted to talk about the importance of home in terms of the pre-req for the out-there adventure.  There can be a lot of physical and metaphorical definitions of home.  For today's purposes, we'll liken it to a "home base" or logistical fortification secure from the outside world.  David Brooks put it, “All of life is a series of daring explorations from a secure base.”  When we think of "home" as our enabling location to live our very best and big life, it takes on a connotation necessary for our conversation.  

Play it.

In breaking this apart a bit, it's a calling to ensure that as a protector and provider, your home is an adequate (don't hear extravagant) place to feel secure and become ready.  I think it's also important to point out that we can define adventure in this context as "big, full, rich life," however you and your family define it.  For example, we had a summer of playgrounds where we deliberately hit all the playgrounds in our surrounding region and sought out any playgrounds to visit while we were traveling.  That summer wasn't climbing Everest or scaling the Eiffel Tower, but in the several hundred playgrounds we visited, we made a ton of memories and our kids developed a ton of physical and social skills.  Cost...essentially free.  Time...would've gone by anyway.  

Hug it.

Now that we have some of the "adventure" paradigm down, what do we require of home to be ready to make a big, rich, full life from our homes?  In part, we need a set of loving people who meet us where we are at and are always there for us.  Hopefully that's a low bar in your home and an easy checkbox.  We also need a large enough physical structure that is secure.  Don't hear "mansion" here.  We've met some incredible adventure case study folks who make plenty due with a small apartment.  One of the champions in this space lives in a pretty modest home.  We've seen other mansion-level people who get so wrapped around the appearance of success they never go out and be successful in adventure...as a measure of a rich life.  

Travel it.

Adventure, as we're defining it, can require some stuff.  And all of that stuff is on a continuum.  The Fight Club mantra of "what you own ends up owning you" is very true.  The joke that the two best days in a boat owner's life are when they buy it and when they sell it rings true as well.  Using water as an example, we've got a new-to-us canoe for $100 bucks that we've had a lot of enjoyment with.  We also feel guilty if we haven't "used it enough" in a given summer.  On the flip side, we've had equal amounts of fun memories on rent-a-canoe-type things during our travels... probably also a couple hundred bucks all in over all these years.  Compare this to our neighbor in their home just up the street who just got a new "real" boat, as he put it...with a low, low payment of $550/month for 150 months (that's the national average, by the way).  Does his home/family get that much more value as compared to ours?  That's to say nothing of his annual maintenance, storage, upkeep, insurance, bigger truck, and gadgets that go into the whole cost.  

Swim it.

Another aspect of home is enough margin to be able to think and plan far enough in advance to actually do the adventure.  This executive functioning is a byproduct of enough time/space/money around the edges as well as a practiced skill.  In a home that is calendar or budget maxxed, it's awfully hard to get the bandwidth to get out the door.  The cool part is...those are choices, and we can minimize our expenditures of time and money to re-dedicate those investments into whatever you want them to be.  It won't happen overnight, and it may take a moment to extricate yourself from the status quo river you've fallen into.  

Do it at night.

Nationally, the "indoor kid" epidemic with screen time is causing many, many issues.  Long-term conservationists worry that without kids who love nature, we won't have adults who love nature enough to protect it.  Similarly, if we don't have kids and adults who prioritize adventure enough to partake in it, we won't be able to turn on that switch when the time comes.  In other words, nature and adventures are an acquired taste.  We have to pour in our time and commitment routinely enough that our enjoyment of those things becomes habitually second nature.  I just had a friend lamenting that at his house, his kids won't go fishing with him or anything...newsflash...he was the same dad who had no time for his kids when they were little because they were an "annoying distraction" from his adventure passions.  

Walk it. 
Just do it.

As we wrap up this week, hopefully this one makes you think.  However, you define adventure (read: rich, full, big life), and however you define home in terms of a pre-req, hopefully it gets you connecting dots in order ot do the things at home that enable and empower you to do the things outside the home - fill your life with travel, nature, new experiences, you name it.  You owe it to yourself, your family, and your future selves to look back with a big set of memories.  And, while you're at it, remember now that doing so doesn't have to be expensive or overly time-consuming...it just has to be routine and proactive.  Enjoy!

With you in the arena, from ours to yours...Happy Trails!

Call to Action: 

• Pick out three adventures you're going to do in the next month...and three things that you'll do around the home to make it happen.  
• 1 - ___________________ 
• 2 - ___________________
• 3 - ___________________
• Discussion: Consider what you/your family could/would/should (level of commitment) and start/stop/sustain (action) in terms of making changes to your calendar and budget to make adventure possible.  

Further Reading, Motivation, and References:

- Importance of Home in Nature

Adventure Is Out There

Adventure is Out There

Go cow tanking down
the river.

Adventure is out there...the premise being that it's outside your four walls at home.  Whether you live in an apartment, a van, a modest home, or a monster mansion...most adventure is past the front door.  The good news is that we don't often have to go very far from home to find it - backyard, walk around the block, greenway, city park, nearby state park, national park, or anywhere in between.  There are some adventure-adjacent things we can do at home - read about it, watch shows about it, study it...but it's hard to do when we're inside.  Watching a show about fishing is not the same as actually fishing.  Reading about mountain climbing isn't the same as doing it.  

Or climbing.

When we "consume" adventure instead of participating in it, we slowly but surely lose our will and ability to partake physically in it.  My grandfather, as a young man, was a pretty active outdoorsman.  By the time I'd come along, he'd spent so much time sitting in the easy chair watching adventure that he'd lost the physical ability to actually do much outside.  He'd traded doing for storytelling...then slowly lost his own stories to recollections of other people's televised travels.  We owe it to ourselves...particularly our future selves to get outside and "do" adventure so that we can later get out and do adventure.  Similarly, we owe our children and grandchildren the continued commitment to getting out.  

Or bird watching on 
the roof.

We noticed on a recent trip to a Midwest state that most people were pretty comfortable going from air-conditioned space to air-conditioned space - home to car to store to dinner to store to car to home.  Consequently, over time, they (and we) become conditioned and addicted to the creature comforts...and it becomes easier to say "no" when the adventure opportunities present themselves.  This has a slippery slope effect as it relates to mental, physical, and probably gets into emotional/spiritiual health as well.  I know when we're engaged beyond ourselves...life is better at our house.  When we're out and doing physical things, we stay in better shape...which in turn...makes it easier to do more things.  Similarly, our mental/emotional/spiritual health all feels more in balance and more healthy when we're not just staring at screens.  

Or hiking.

Stewardship is another big part of getting our kids out the door to adventure.  Our children are getting increasingly removed from adventure and the outdoors in general.  Between our safety-fied culture where we inordinately avoid anything that might create a band-aid and our busy schedules that make it easy to skip adventures - big and small...our children aren't learning to love our natural spaces.  Similarly, as we do more screen time instead of travel time, we lose our appreciation for those around us and different from us.  As this generation grows up...without a strong adventure/outdoor/travel foundation...they'll vote differently in their elections and with their dollars.  We'll officially lose the things we've already given up because we learned not to love the wild places and spaces.  

Or build something.

Adventure can take many, many forms and shapes.  This summer we've been building the cabin/shed/fort/castle in the backyard.  The kids have had an opportunity to learn building skills while working on their math and planning as well.  You can add in a road trip, hike, camp out, new festival, or food...there isn't a strict rubric of "if you didn't get eaten by a grizzly bear, it doesn't count as adventure."  If anything, perhaps the rubric is "would you tell your grandkids about it?"  In other words, the reminder here is that chances of you telling your grandkids about that epic spreadsheet you made in your fluorescent-lit office... are slim to none.  

Or just a 
walk.

As we wrap up this week, we're sitting in a hotel in Santa Fe, NM after attending the Zozobra Festival last night (following a recommendation from last year at the Albuquerque Balloon Festival).  Sure, it's 12 round-trip hours in the car and a few bucks in gas and hotels...but at a certain level...you were going to spend the time anyway, and it can cost what you want it to in large part.  Spending a few hours of great music, reminding you to burn your glooms every so often, and seeing maybe the best pyrotechnic show we've ever seen...priceless...and probably on the tell-grandkids-list.  It doesn't have to be epic...it does have to be routine...and you just have to do it.  Go adventure...out there.  

With you in the arena, from ours to yours...Happy Trails!

Call to Action: 

• Pick out three adventures - big or small - that you and your family can partake in during the next month.  Schedule them and keep the plan.
• 1 - ___________________ 
• 2 - ___________________
• 3 - ___________________
• Discussion: Consider what you/your family could/would/should (level of commitment) and start/stop/sustain (action) in terms of the calendar and budget that you're going to make your adventure lifestyle.  

Further Reading, Motivation, and References:

- Zozobra